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View this email online by Linda Holmes Welcome! It was the week when we saw the Cannes lineup. It was the week when we tried to figure out what Max is. And it was the week when Ariana DeBose went right on ahead, virality aside. Let's get to it. Checking in with Ted Lasso There's a big difference between "it's not good" and "it's not for me." Most often, this difference comes up with genres: musicals, horror, romance, whatever. You could make the best slasher movie in existence, and it's not going to work on somebody who doesn't like slasher movies. But it can also apply to storytelling choices that make a show less compelling. Same talent, same hard work by people who clearly didn't abruptly become bad at their jobs. They're just not making the version of the show you are -- or, in this case, I am -- most interested in watching. This, regrettably, brings me to the third season of Ted Lasso, which I haven't found nearly as rich as the first two seasons. I have been an upside person when it comes to Ted -- I didn't dislike the second season when a lot of people did, didn't dislike the Beard episode or the Christmas episode when a lot of people did, and haven't found the big-hearted tone of the show cloying, as some people did. It's been one of my favorite shows -- just not right now. Jason Sudeikis as Ted Lasso and Nick Mohammed as Nathan Shelley in "Ted Lasso" / Apple TV+ It's worth stressing, obviously, that we're five episodes in. There will be 12 in what is understood to be the final season (although formal announcements have not been forthcoming). There's a lot of game left to play, as Ted might put it, so a midseason check-in is only good for what it's good for, which is a halftime taking-stock moment.  And so, a summary: Richmond started off shaky, but then they brought in Zava, a comically egotistical superstar who got them on a roll. Then, they fell on hard times after a loss to Nate and Rupert's West Ham. When the going got tough, Zava retired, so now they're not sure what to do next. Rebecca and Leslie have even discussed firing Ted.  Meanwhile, Ted learned that his ex-wife, Michelle, has started dating their former marriage counselor. (As was the case when Rebecca dated Sam, I feel like the ethics of this are flying a little too much under the radar.) Rebecca's preoccupation with Rupert has returned as their teams clash. And after a psychic told her she would become a mother, she started revisiting that idea as well. Keeley, no longer with Roy (but still eyeing both him and Jamie when she sees them), has her own PR firm. She hired and fired her messy friend Shandy, and she's now hooked up with Jack, the very beautiful VC who controls her funding. Nate has been seduced by Rupert into doubling down on evil, but he's also had creeping second thoughts about the way he has treated, and continues to treat, Ted. I think my problem is right in that paragraph: Most of the stories now involve one, and only one, of our main characters. It's very noticeable, and it's probably part of the reason episodes have ballooned from 30 or so minutes in the first season to 45-plus ever since the second part of last season. Everybody is doing their own thing. Keeley has her own PR firm, where she seems far less capable than she did before. She didn't know what a CFO was (really?), she didn't know who her primary funder was (... really?), and she hired her obviously unqualified and disastrous friend to work on one of her most important accounts. Juno Temple is great, as always, but this story hasn't had much emotional weight, and more to the point, it's taken Keeley away from most of her interactions with the rest of the cast.  Rebecca's storyline is more complicated. It has plenty of emotional weight, and Hannah Waddingham is, as always, acting the heck out of it as Rebecca tentatively explores having a baby. But Rebecca started her story as a woman who was driven by her feelings about Rupert and the ways in which that marriage wasn't what she wanted it to be. Over the last two seasons, she's come to be more and more driven by her feelings about her accomplishments and her chosen family. Now she's in a story away from those relationships, a fact that was driven home when she tried to call Keeley about her test results from the doctor and Keeley didn't answer, because she was making out with Jack. Plausible stories for both women! But they're operating in isolation, which can hurt an ensemble show.  I freely admit, too, that a pursuit of motherhood that Rebecca undertakes on her own is not the story about this particular character that I most want to watch. That's largely because needing motherhood to feel complete, as real as certainly it is for plenty of people, is probably the most familiar story for TV and film to tell about a woman over 40 who's had professional success. (See: Olivia Benson on Law & Order: SVU, Murphy Brown, Rebecca Howe from Cheers, even Liz Lemon from 30 Rock.) And if they were going to pursue the baby story, I wish something other than a psychic had brought it to the forefront. Precisely because this nagging regret was part of Rebecca's character early on, there were perhaps more organic ways to add it to her arc this season. I suspect it would be working better without the psychic and without the separation of everybody into solo worlds. Ted is also largely off on his own, dealing with Michelle and Dr. Jacob. The breakup of Ted's marriage and his sadness about it have been present in the DNA of the show from the beginning, but I'm not sure these episodes are doing much with that story quite yet. And an episode in which Ted's son, Henry, bullied a classmate resolved itself with ease. It pulled most of its narrative tension from trying for a reveal that Henry was the bully and not the bullied, which was pretty obvious from the outset.  Smaller stories are also largely keeping the cast separate: Sam's restaurant and Colin's potential outing, to name two.  It's maybe not surprising that my favorite little story nub thus far, while it's not getting much time, is the cooperation between Roy and Jamie, which developed when the two were among the only guys in the locker room able to summon any skepticism about Zava. That is the show at its best: characters who are still themselves, but who reflect the deepening of the bonds between them that the story has been about. The show raised a question early in the season that does go to the heart of the story's key relationships. Specifically, Ted told Beard that he was no longer sure why they were in London. He knew why they came, but he wasn't sure why they stayed. (It sure wasn't to learn about football, since Ted still seems to know nothing about the sport, between having no idea who Zava was, still needing Beard and Roy to do most of the coaching, and crediting games of FIFA for what he does know.) There's a solid argument that Ted does not belong in this job even more than he didn't belong in it before. Nate was right all along that he has a better claim to it, and I have begun to wonder if that's the endgame. After all, this season featured a mention early on of Mary Poppins, whose whole thing was that she showed up, she inspired and taught, and then she left.  If that's the case, then those relationships will come back to the forefront, especially Ted's relationships with the guys on the team, which have largely been dormant for the last several episodes, and his relationships with Rebecca and Beard and Roy and Nate. The Keeley and Rebecca stories seem destined to get them more fully back into one another's lives eventually. They're both going to need somebody to talk to. (Keeley currently has no fewer than three romantic entanglements that the show has suggested are live issues. It's no baby, but it's plenty complicated.) It's those relationships that I watch the show for; it's those relationships I'm missing. I've seen these writers bring a bunch of threads together, as they did in the marvelous second-season episode "Man City." I don't doubt they can do it. But with only half a season left ... let's go, team. Newsletter continues after sponsor message We Recommend I've been watching the YouTube series Every Frame a Painting, which is about film technique and visual language, and I strongly recommend it to you if you've never seen it.  The podcast Bullseye reran my interview with Sarah Snook (who plays Shiv on Succession) this week. I loved talking to her, and she has an amazing laugh that you don't really hear when she plays Shiv.  Writer Sara Schaefer, who's written for TV and lots of other things, made an amazing video that lays out some of the arguments her guild is making as they vote on a possible strike authorization, and while she was at it, she showed her process in making a miniature model of a writers' room. It's a great watch.  Maris Kreizman's podcast, The Maris Review, which features thoughtful author interviews, reached its 200th episode this week. I recommend it, even the episodes other than mine. Which, not to brag, was all the way back at Episode 12, so I am a Maris Review hipster. What We Did This Week Mo’Nique in My Name is Mo’Nique / Netflix The beginning of this week was a very big one for viewers of Succession. I wrote about the episode and ran down lots of its details. Eric Deggans and I talked to Andrew Limbong on All Things Considered. And I joined Brittany Luse on It's Been a Minute. So yes: big week.  I can tell you how amazing this discussion of the film Air is, because I didn't have anything to do with it. But Stephen and Aisha chatted with our dear friend Gene Demby, and they had a very, very good time -- and so will you if you listen.  Aisha talked to Kat Chow and Tobin Low about the Netflix series Beef. (And if you missed it, you can read my review from last week.) Aisha's busy week continued with her discussion of Mo'Nique and her new special My Name Is Mo'Nique, where she was joined by Tre'vell Anderson and jarrett hill, our favorite Mo'Nique specialists. And Glen talked to Wailin Wong, Jordan Morris and Roxana Hadadi about the new film Renfield. What's Making Us Happy Every week on the show, we talk about some other things out in the world that have been giving us joy lately. Here they are: Wailin Wong: Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld Roxana Hadadi: The Tess Monaghan series by Laura Lippman Jordan Morris: Grace Needs Space! by Benjamin Wilgus and Rii Abrego Glen Weldon: Steven Yeun on WTF with Marc Maron Stream your local NPR station. Visit NPR.org to find your local station stream. Subscribe to Pop Culture Happy Hour+. Your support helps make our show possible and unlocks access to our sponsor-free episodes. What do you think of today's email? We'd love to hear your thoughts, questions and feedback: pchh@npr.org Enjoying this newsletter? Forward to a friend! They can sign up here. Looking for more great content? Check out all of our newsletter offerings — including Music, Books, Daily News and more! You received this message because you're subscribed to Pop Culture Happy Hour emails. This email was sent by National Public Radio, Inc., 1111 North Capitol Street NE, Washington, DC 20002 Unsubscribe  |  Privacy Policy

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View this email online Photographs Unsplash; Collage by Becky Harlan and Trish Pickelhaupt/NPR Hi y’all, Have you ever gotten a piece of advice that really resonated with you? Maybe it came from a trusted friend, or it hit you at exactly the right time. Great advice has the power to change us.  When I was in my early 20s, an older (and wiser) cousin said something to me that I still think about. “Of your job, your relationship and your housing situation — only have one in flux at a time. Otherwise you’ll get overwhelmed,” she said.  I got this guidance because I was living in a windowless bedroom in Washington, D.C., disheartened by my job and questioning my multi-year relationship. Her advice was *ahem* well-timed and helped me realize that I needed to get at least one of those areas under control, ASAP.  Newsletter continues after sponsor message Back in February, we shared life advice from Dear Life Kit experts, and also asked for the best advice you had ever received. Y’all delivered. We got over 500 pearls of wisdom, and this week we’re sharing some of the best tips for keeping your relationships happy and healthy. These submissions have been edited for length and clarity.  👋 Ask for help. I’ve learned that it keeps me from trying to be an army of one. And people like to help one another, it makes them feel appreciated and seen for their gifts and talents. — Sara Smith  💐 My college pastor once told me, "don't send flowers when someone dies, send flowers when they are alive." That advice has always stuck with me. It reminds me to show my gratitude in the here and now. — Bethany Anderson  💌 You need to be a good friend to have a good friend. — Julie Rose 🙋‍♀️ Leave the party while it's still fun. Too many of us feel the need to stay too long in relationships that we know deep down were never meant to go the distance, in jobs we love but are meant to be stepping stones to greater challenges and growth that lies ahead, in the splendor of childhood innocence that's better kept as a sweet memory. — Jan Ketcham 🌩 My mom used to tell me, “The more people who become involved in a disagreement, the less likely it is to be resolved.” I have seen the truth of this play out in many situations over the years. — Jenny Hougendobler 🗣 How someone treats you tells you more about who they are than about who you are. How you respond tells them more about who you are than about who they are. — Nona Kahn ☕ Right before we got on a plane and moved to the Philippines (from Macon, Georgia) my favorite Auntie told me, "You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea, and that's OK. Your weirdos will find you." I was 8 years old and I have never forgotten it. It hasn't always been easy, but in the end I have always found my weirdos. — Beth McGraw   “You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea,” is advice I’m still trying to internalize. Working on it. Stay tuned, because we’re going to be sharing more of your favorite advice over the next few months. In the meantime, have a great weekend. —Julia Carney, Podcast Coordinator   ⬇ Keep scrolling for more tips from Life Kit  Access Sponsor-Free Episodes Want to support our show? Try a subscription to Life Kit+ and get all the tips and tricks you love sponsor-free! Learn more at plus.npr.org/lifekit.  Learn More More on community and connection from Life Kit: 👀 How to give better advice — lessons from an advice columnist. 😳 Want to make friends? Embrace the awkwardness. 😘 What makes a good partner — and how to cultivate connection. 🌱 How to cope with the end of a friendship. 💖 What’s your attachment style? Take this quiz. How to ace a job interview with Life Kit host Marielle Segarra and Cynthia Pong, the founder & CEO of Embrace Change— a career coaching and consulting firm that works with women of color.  Life Kit is on YouTube! Check out the playlist on the NPR Podcasts channel. Stream your local NPR station. Visit NPR.org to find your local station stream. What do you think of today's email? We'd love to hear your thoughts, questions and feedback: LifeKit@npr.org Enjoying this newsletter? Forward to a friend! They can sign up here. Looking for more great content? Check out all of our newsletter offerings — including Daily News, Code Switch, Health and more! You received this message because you're subscribed to Life Kit emails. This email was sent by National Public Radio, Inc., 1111 North Capitol Street NE, Washington, DC 20002 Unsubscribe  |  Privacy Policy